Heart-Aching

So God has built me with this heart that has a strange ability to feel acutely for people...
And right now, I am really aching for a couple of my friends that are really dealing with relationship problems... undefined parameters, breaking up, jumping in too fast... kinda running the whole gamete on what the issues are.
And the people are varied, guys and girls, intro- and extro- vert personalities, strong and weak in the Lord,... but there is still the ache for every single one of them (no pun intended on the "single" part).
And maybe its too close to home... and that's why it aches so much. I have so many conflicting ideas, ideals, rules, and freedoms in that area, that I see all to clearly the struggle that it is!
Part of me really wants to rebel against that and say that if something was really God's will He would work it out in a way that was perfectly natural, and not so much of an emotional battle. But then again, I look back on what God has done in my past, and the times that He grew me the most where the times of greatest struggle.
So here I am, with still the ache, but the knowledge that God has a plan, and I can trust Him perfectly, not only in my life but in those of my friends.
My mission is not the ache, (unless it is a tool to drive me to my knees for them), and its not pity (but confidence in God's strength), and not withdrawal from messy situations (but standing with them in encouragement, and building them up for absolute purity).